misandry is not real!
when in an argument with someone the other day they asked something that a lot of people seem to question; so i’ll probably just say my response here to the verbatim question
“you say misandry doesnt exist because women will never hold the power necessary to exercise it.”
the way that sentence is phrased is essentially a strawman. i said misandry will never cause men real, systemic harm—not because women will never obtain the power necessary to put them through it, but because they do not seek to. even if women were able to eradicate patriarchy, it would not be a matriarchy that is then implemented, it would not be a reversal of roles. i’d say the best thing to strive for in that world would be equity. IDEALLY there would be no power imbalance, and thus no misogyny or misandry bc both are playing into eachothers strengths (we know both genders aren’t 1:1 equal and to believe and treat them as such neglects many needs that are specific to each gender but i know a lot of feminists dont even realise that either. its like they’re scared to admit men and women are fundamentally different.)
if you believe that misandry will ever cause you, or the men around you, real systemic harm, then you have bought into what is essentially a moral panic. the entirety of misandry is a moral panic. this idea that it’s harming men outside the confines of twitter and the occasional jokes that women make in their interpersonal lives is a lie that was fabricated on the basis of further de-legitimising feminism.
it purposefully shifts the focus away from real, material issues that women face and instead redirects the focus onto men by gaslighting everyone involved into believing that men are the ‘real’ ones being oppressed, perhaps due to misandrist jokes or rhetoric they receive. but i’d actually argue that in this way, men ‘suffer’ from society in the same way that your knuckles suffer from pain after punching someone in the face.